erase "work-life" balance and navigate life

Erase Work-Life Balance: Change the Conversation (With Yourself) 2

Yesterday my daughter described a disagreement she was having with a friend at camp. She exclaimed that her friend’s idea was “so stupid!” I remarked that her words were not very descriptive of the point she was trying to make and rather likely to stir up anger in her friend, making things worse. I suggested…


imposter syndrome

How Smart Women With Imposter Syndrome Can Build Self-Confidence

I didn’t realize that for most of my career I’d felt like a fraud until I began to help a number of smart women with imposter syndrome build their self-confidence. I thought I was the only one who believed that the admissions officers at my undergraduate and graduate schools had probably made a mistake. I…


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Stacy’s Book Note: Excellent Sheep: The Miseducation of the American Elite and the Way to a Meaningful Life

When I first heard about William Deresiewicz‘s Excellent Sheep: The Miseducation of the American Elite and the Way to a Meaningful Life, I assumed it was yet another critique of Millennials. But, when a friend I respect strongly recommended it to me and loaned me his copy, I thought I’d give it a skim. I soon found I couldn’t put it down. Indeed, Deresiewicz does describe how elite…


how moms returning to the workforce can build authentic confidence

[VIDEO] For Moms Returning to the Workforce: How to Build Authentic Confidence

In this video, Stacy explains how moms returning to the workforce can build authentic confidence. For the mom who has taken a career break, the job search can be especially daunting. Even those who once had successful careers feel their confidence wane. They are often told to “fake it ’til you make it” or “be…


build confidence by thinking like a scientist

Build Confidence by Thinking Like a Scientist

It’s ironic that I’m suggesting that women can build confidence by thinking like a scientist. I was a research scientist for most of my career, but during that time I felt far from confident. That’s because I was also a perfectionist. I wanted things to go right the first time, so I spent too much time preparing…


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Stacy’s Book Note: Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World

In his latest book, Adam Grant suggests how you can better champion your ideas, especially if they go against the grain. In this book note on Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World, I tried to pick pointers that would be most helpful for women. Before moving forward, I should note that this book is not limited to…


good leaders struggle

Good Leaders Struggle

Seeing the media these days, I worry that young people don’t realize how often good leaders struggle. In fact, they may be led to believe that achieving success and wielding power come easy. I see a different side. I’m fortunate to be privy to the thoughts and feelings of my clients—women who are quite successful, many…