Get Your Life Back: Beyond Work-Life Balance

Work-life balance is a term that gets tossed around too often that it has become meaningless.work-life balance

  • Do you feel like you’ve forgotten who you are?
  • Are you overwhelmed by the demands at work and responsibilities for your children?
  • Do you feel you don’t have enough time for yourself?

 

Aiming for “work-life balance” is neither effective or possible. (Click here to find out why.)

Instead, I suggest that you navigate your life:

  • Get unstuck and re-build your confidence.
  • Manage your time (and energy) to concentrate your efforts
  • Practice happiness everyday to find calm
  • Connect with those you love and put those you admire on your Personal Board of Directors.

 


avoiding mistakes
As a recovering perfectionist, I tend to spend a lot of energy avoiding mistakes. One of my longtime hobbies is knitting. I learned how to knit when I was 10, but it wasn’t until I was in my 30s that I learned an invaluable lesson about mistakes. Up until then, whenever I made a knitting mistake, I couldn’t…

How Avoiding Mistakes Can Hold You Back


think small
As a big fan of thinking small, I have written about baby steps in the past. In recent months, I have realized that breaking projects we dread down into smaller tasks can not only help you get things done, it can also help you feel good about your competence and thus boost your confidence. An…

Think Small to Boost Confidence Even When Tackling Tasks You Dread


Three Wishes for Women
This holiday season, I have three wishes for women. They are based on what I have heard and observed over the course of many years interviewing mothers as a researcher and working with women as a coach. My three wishes for women: I wish you time to develop inner peace. Matthieu Ricard describes this as…

Three Wishes for Women



when bad things happen
When bad things happen, smart women, sometimes, unwittingly make it harder on themselves. Bad things happen to everyone—it’s part of life. As much as they may prepare, work hard, and try to do the right thing, bad things may still happen to them and to those they care about. After something bad happens, women tend…

When Bad Things Happen: What Women Should and Shouldn’t Do


ask for help
Do you find it hard to ask for help? Many smart people, especially women, are more comfortable offering or providing assistance than they are receiving and accepting it. Four Common Reasons Smart People Don’t Ask for Help In reflecting on many conversations I’ve had with my clients over the years, I believe there are four…

What You May Miss When You Don’t Ask for Help


happy at work, find flow
“If you want to be happy at work, find flow.” You’ve probably heard this advice before. But, what is flow? Let’s go to the source. In this book note, I summarize the key elements of flow as described in Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. He and his colleagues have conducted numerous studies…

Stacy’s Book Note: Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience




get control of your time
I decided to re-read my yellowed copy of Alan Lakein’s How to Get Control of Your Time and Your Life after having read several newer but disappointing time-management books. While published in 1973, its advice is not only succinct and helpful, but still relevant today. Consider these statements: “I feel like I waste so much…

Stacy’s Book Note: How to Get Control of Your Time and Your Life


imposter syndrome
I didn’t realize that for most of my career I’d felt like a fraud until I began to help a number of smart women with imposter syndrome build their self-confidence. I thought I was the only one who believed that the admissions officers at my undergraduate and graduate schools had probably made a mistake. I…

How Smart Women With Imposter Syndrome Can Build Self-Confidence