baby steps


take for granted
In celebration of International Happiness Day, I am recycling an old article I wrote in 2010 about recognizing what we take for granted. It’s an easy way to start practicing happiness and build confidence every day. For part 2 of this series, click here. During our renovation, we were very fortunate to have been able…

Recognize What You Take For Granted: How To Practice Happiness, Part 1


think small
As a big fan of thinking small, I have written about baby steps in the past. In recent months, I have realized that breaking projects we dread down into smaller tasks can not only help you get things done, it can also help you feel good about your competence and thus boost your confidence. An…

Think Small to Boost Confidence Even When Tackling Tasks You Dread


when bad things happen
When bad things happen, smart women, sometimes, unwittingly make it harder on themselves. Bad things happen to everyone—it’s part of life. As much as they may prepare, work hard, and try to do the right thing, bad things may still happen to them and to those they care about. After something bad happens, women tend…

When Bad Things Happen: What Women Should and Shouldn’t Do



get over mom guilt
During the Q&A after a recent webinar, a listener asked me how she might get over “mom guilt.” Before I could answer, a memory that had haunted me appeared once again: I was holding a bag of groceries I had just picked up with my younger daughter while waiting for my older daughter to be dismissed from preschool.…

Why I Feed My Children Paste, or 5 Steps to Get Over Mom Guilt


When I worked at the Families and Work Institute, I regularly analyzed data from The National Study of the Changing Workforce. One of my responsibilities was to field media requests. If reporters called needing a stat about employees at large companies, it was my job to find them the answer. I don’t remember many of…

Why You’re Unhappy with Your Work and Four Steps to Feeling Better


New Year's resolutions don't work 2
(Please note this post on why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work was previously issued on January 20, 2009.) When it comes to New Year’s resolutions (NYRs), you are probably one of two types of people: You religiously make them each year, starting out with gusto, but then, by spring or summer, you find you’ve already forgotten about…

Three Reasons Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work



erase "work-life" balance and navigate life 2
Yesterday my daughter described a disagreement she was having with a friend at camp. She exclaimed that her friend’s idea was “so stupid!” I remarked that her words were not very descriptive of the point she was trying to make and rather likely to stir up anger in her friend, making things worse. I suggested…

Erase Work-Life Balance: Change the Conversation (With Yourself)


Mother's Day reassurance and tweaks
It’s funny how one thing leads to another. I had a conversation with a friend who reminded me that it’s important for women over 40 to include some strength training in their exercise routine. She recommended a great class in my neighborhood. During my first class, I ran into another woman I know. She said,…

Mother’s Day Reassurance and Tweaks


forget what's ideal
I was recently interviewed by a Prevention magazine writer Marygrace Taylor who asked what advice I would give her readers who want to have a perfect day at work. I told her somewhat apologetically that her premise didn’t quite work. The reason: the first step would be not to aim for a “perfect” day. I…

Forget what’s “ideal”