Confidence

You can learn how to build confidence!

Many smart women lack confidence. They are often told to “fake it til you make it” or be fearless. But, that sort of advice often doesn’t help.

In the resources below, Stacy will explain:

  • Why smart women tend to lack confidence
  • Strategies you’re using that do not work
  • How to build confidence that is authentically yours

If, after checking these out, you’d like to find customized solutions to build confidence that are just right for you, consider a consultation with Stacy. To see if you qualify for one, simply complete this short form.


avoiding mistakes
As a recovering perfectionist, I tend to spend a lot of energy avoiding mistakes. One of my longtime hobbies is knitting. I learned how to knit when I was 10, but it wasn’t until I was in my 30s that I learned an invaluable lesson about mistakes. Up until then, whenever I made a knitting mistake, I couldn’t…

How Avoiding Mistakes Can Hold You Back


think small
As a big fan of thinking small, I have written about baby steps in the past. In recent months, I have realized that breaking projects we dread down into smaller tasks can not only help you get things done, it can also help you feel good about your competence and thus boost your confidence. An…

Think Small to Boost Confidence Even When Tackling Tasks You Dread


Three Wishes for Women
This holiday season, I have three wishes for women. They are based on what I have heard and observed over the course of many years interviewing mothers as a researcher and working with women as a coach. My three wishes for women: I wish you time to develop inner peace. Matthieu Ricard describes this as…

Three Wishes for Women



ask for help
Do you find it hard to ask for help? Many smart people, especially women, are more comfortable offering or providing assistance than they are receiving and accepting it. Four Common Reasons Smart People Don’t Ask for Help In reflecting on many conversations I’ve had with my clients over the years, I believe there are four…

What You May Miss When You Don’t Ask for Help


imposter syndrome
I didn’t realize that for most of my career I’d felt like a fraud until I began to help a number of smart women with imposter syndrome build their self-confidence. I thought I was the only one who believed that the admissions officers at my undergraduate and graduate schools had probably made a mistake. I…

How Smart Women With Imposter Syndrome Can Build Self-Confidence


how moms returning to the workforce can build authentic confidence
In this video, Stacy explains how moms returning to the workforce can build authentic confidence. For the mom who has taken a career break, the job search can be especially daunting. Even those who once had successful careers feel their confidence wane. They are often told to “fake it ’til you make it” or “be…

[VIDEO] For Moms Returning to the Workforce: How to Build Authentic Confidence



build confidence by thinking like a scientist
It’s ironic that I’m suggesting that women can build confidence by thinking like a scientist. I was a research scientist for most of my career, but during that time I felt far from confident. That’s because I was also a perfectionist. I wanted things to go right the first time, so I spent too much time preparing…

Build Confidence by Thinking Like a Scientist


champion your ideas
In his latest book, Adam Grant suggests how you can better champion your ideas, especially if they go against the grain. In this book note on Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World, I tried to pick pointers that would be most helpful for women. Before moving forward, I should note that this book is not limited to…

Stacy’s Book Note: Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World


good leaders struggle
Seeing the media these days, I worry that young people don’t realize how often good leaders struggle. In fact, they may be led to believe that achieving success and wielding power come easy. I see a different side. I’m fortunate to be privy to the thoughts and feelings of my clients—women who are quite successful, many…

Good Leaders Struggle