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self-promotion and selflessness
Finding the sweet spot that lies between self-promotion and selflessness is the focus of this second in a two-part series on practicing happiness. To read part 1, click here. Lately, I have been hearing from my clients that they feel increasing pressure to put their best selves forward: While fully recognizing that their peers post…

Somewhere between Self-promotion and Selflessness: Practicing Happiness, Part 2


when bad things happen
When bad things happen, smart women, sometimes, unwittingly make it harder on themselves. Bad things happen to everyone—it’s part of life. As much as they may prepare, work hard, and try to do the right thing, bad things may still happen to them and to those they care about. After something bad happens, women tend…

When Bad Things Happen: What Women Should and Shouldn’t Do




Saying No
It seems to me that women are not saying no and end up doing more voluntary grunt work than men. By voluntary grunt work, I’m not talking about women doing more household chores than men, which has been well documented here. I’m referring to work that isn’t required and offers few, if any, rewards. Some…

Ten Tips for Saying No and Reclaiming Your Time


helping others to succeed
We don’t usually think of helping others to succeed. Yet, in his book, Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success, Adam Grant explains how giving can drive success. He is the youngest tenured professor at The Wharton School, and has written a fascinating book about his research. It’s a quick read with lots of real-life…

Stacy’s Book Note: Give and Take


With Thanksgiving just around the corner, I initially thought that for this post I would share four things I became familiar with and have come to appreciate in 2013. I found each to be particularly enjoyable or helpful. (Actually, if you’ve spent any amount of time with me this year, you’ve probably already heard me…

Identity and Disclosure (or, Four Seemingly Random Things I Am Thankful for in 2013)



The other day I was talking to someone about travel guidebooks. Instead of saying the words “Lonely Planet,” I said “lonely parent.“ My friend didn’t make much of my slip, but it has remained stuck in my head ever since. Parenting can indeed feel very lonely at times. If you Google “lonely parent,” you’ll find…

Lonely Parent


With Thanksgiving and other winter holidays approaching and social gatherings increasing, many of us have begun to anticipate and worry about upcoming interactions with bossy family members and acquaintances. Instead of feeling the season’s gratitude and joy, we sometimes feel resentment at having to travel distances only to be hassled once we arrive at our…

You’re Not the Boss of Me! (How to cope with annoying people this Thanksgiving ...