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happy at work, find flow
“If you want to be happy at work, find flow.” You’ve probably heard this advice before. But, what is flow? Let’s go to the source. In this book note, I summarize the key elements of flow as described in Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. He and his colleagues have conducted numerous studies…

Stacy’s Book Note: Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience


imposter syndrome
I didn’t realize that for most of my career I’d felt like a fraud until I began to help a number of smart women with imposter syndrome build their self-confidence. I thought I was the only one who believed that the admissions officers at my undergraduate and graduate schools had probably made a mistake. I…

How Smart Women With Imposter Syndrome Can Build Self-Confidence


get unstuck and get some satisfaction
Nearly every day I talk with bright and caring women who feel they are running in place. They are working hard but not getting anywhere. Seeking more satisfaction or “work-life balance,” a term I’m not fond of, these women generally fall into one of three categories: Stay-at-home mothers who live with the nagging worry that they’ll…

Spinning Your Wheels? How to Get Unstuck and Get Some Satisfaction



David Brooks has written several op-ed pieces for the New York Times, coinciding with the launch of his new book The Road to Character. (You can find one here and another here.) Of the three I have read thus far, I found myself thinking about The Moral Bucket List the most. In it, Brooks suggests that…

Merge Ahead: The Road to Success, Character, and Happiness


New Year's resolutions don't work 2
(Please note this post on why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work was previously issued on January 20, 2009.) When it comes to New Year’s resolutions (NYRs), you are probably one of two types of people: You religiously make them each year, starting out with gusto, but then, by spring or summer, you find you’ve already forgotten about…

Three Reasons Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work


growth mindset 1
  I am a huge fan of so many wonderful social scientists. But, perhaps the one person whose research I use everyday as a life coach and as a parent is Carol Dweck, Lewis and Virginia Eaton Professor of Psychology at Stanford University. Her book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success summarizes much of her research. IMHO, her…

Stacy’s Book Note: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success




The New York Post is known for its “Sports” and “Gossip” columns. Anyone who has seen me attempt to run, play tennis, or swim knows it is highly unlikely I’ll ever be in “Sports,” and my life is far too ordinary to be on “Page Six.” But thanks to the many lessons I’ve learned from…

You Won’t Find This on “Page Six”: Tips for Moms Returning to Work


3 Keys to Finding YOUR Satisfaction
Wow, Marissa Mayer has done it again! The Yahoo CEO is once again causing quite a stir. First, she announced she was pregnant on her first day. She kept her promise to take a short maternity leave, returning mere weeks after giving birth. Last week, she decided all employees who work remotely will have to work at the office, and…

To Each His (or Her) Own: 3 Keys to Finding YOUR Satisfaction