working mom


avoiding mistakes
As a recovering perfectionist, I tend to spend a lot of energy avoiding mistakes. One of my longtime hobbies is knitting. I learned how to knit when I was 10, but it wasn’t until I was in my 30s that I learned an invaluable lesson about mistakes. Up until then, whenever I made a knitting mistake, I couldn’t…

How Avoiding Mistakes Can Hold You Back


Three Wishes for Women
This holiday season, I have three wishes for women. They are based on what I have heard and observed over the course of many years interviewing mothers as a researcher and working with women as a coach. My three wishes for women: I wish you time to develop inner peace. Matthieu Ricard describes this as…

Three Wishes for Women


ask for help
Do you find it hard to ask for help? Many smart people, especially women, are more comfortable offering or providing assistance than they are receiving and accepting it. Four Common Reasons Smart People Don’t Ask for Help In reflecting on many conversations I’ve had with my clients over the years, I believe there are four…

What You May Miss When You Don’t Ask for Help



get control of your time
I decided to re-read my yellowed copy of Alan Lakein’s How to Get Control of Your Time and Your Life after having read several newer but disappointing time-management books. While published in 1973, its advice is not only succinct and helpful, but still relevant today. Consider these statements: “I feel like I waste so much…

Stacy’s Book Note: How to Get Control of Your Time and Your Life


imposter syndrome
I didn’t realize that for most of my career I’d felt like a fraud until I began to help a number of smart women with imposter syndrome build their self-confidence. I thought I was the only one who believed that the admissions officers at my undergraduate and graduate schools had probably made a mistake. I…

How Smart Women With Imposter Syndrome Can Build Self-Confidence


build confidence by thinking like a scientist
It’s ironic that I’m suggesting that women can build confidence by thinking like a scientist. I was a research scientist for most of my career, but during that time I felt far from confident. That’s because I was also a perfectionist. I wanted things to go right the first time, so I spent too much time preparing…

Build Confidence by Thinking Like a Scientist



sense of wonder
As our lives get busier and our reliance on technology grows, our connection with nature becomes even more precious. As I’ve done in the past, I’ve opted for a quick and easy read as summer approaches. This time, I’m hoping key takeaways from The Sense of Wonder by Rachel Carson will help you get outdoors as much as you can.…

Stacy’s Book Note: The Sense of Wonder


get over mom guilt
During the Q&A after a recent webinar, a listener asked me how she might get over “mom guilt.” Before I could answer, a memory that had haunted me appeared once again: I was holding a bag of groceries I had just picked up with my younger daughter while waiting for my older daughter to be dismissed from preschool.…

Why I Feed My Children Paste, or 5 Steps to Get Over Mom Guilt


why smart women get stuck trying to figure out their next career move
[Below is an excerpt from my book, The Lighthouse Method, that describes a common problem: Why smart women get stuck trying to figure out what they want to do next. If you’re feeling stuck, I hope it will help you be less critical of yourself. To learn more on how to overcome this problem, please…

Why Smart Women Get Stuck Trying To Figure Out Their Next Career Move